How does female upbringing paralyze men? The child's hatred of the mother's aggressive behavior generates fear. When such a hurt and frightened boy grows up and becomes a man, he himself "secretly" provokes women to break up with him, humiliating and hurting them. And each of his next divorce confirms the imposed stereotype: "No one will love you like your mother!". Right! No woman should love you like your mother... That's absurd! Women were told from childhood that men should be leaders, providers and protectors, and they should be sensual, gentle and tender beauties. Being beautiful is necessary to get a happy fate, which in the female understanding subconsciously implies a successful husband. Men were told that they should be courageous and strong leaders, so that beautiful princesses would love them. Great. Until everything goes well. And who said these wonderful words? Right — in most cases — mothers and numerous female surroundings. Men in our society are raised by women. And how do women usually raise? In a way that is familiar to many: they say one thing, do another. These women repeat the stereotypes of behavior inherent in their parents. Sad and offended people are often hostages of the models of unhappiness that have developed in their families. Therefore, we can observe a clear contradiction in upbringing, which people do not even notice. Mothers tell their sons that they need to be real men and then express their disagreement with their husbands, hitting their partner's self-esteem precisely and painfully. Many women transfer this attitude to their husbands and to their sons. And they start to tell them "their place". And they yell at "their" men. And so actively that the sons have a clear dissonance. And it manifests itself in such a way that the boys decide that they will never get married. But then hormones are activated, and the sexual instinct wins. This is a very broad topic, which includes concepts of sex, money, and success. We will reveal it gradually. And today we will talk about how short-sighted female upbringing paralyzes men and makes them afraid of women and relationships in the future. He doesn't listen — she punishes The child has no idea of God, i.e. there is no one abstract and main, who determines his fate. The child has only specific parents or only a mother, who plays the role of God. In the future, this role is distributed to educators in kindergarten, teachers in school, doctors and many others. And all these roles in our society are performed by women in most cases. The boy gets used to the fact that women must be obeyed, otherwise there will be punishment. Oh, punishment is inevitable! He has no doubt. But — at the same time — the same mothers, grandmothers and teachers say: "You are a man — you must be a protector of women and a leader in the family". How can he assimilate this? What part of the brain can understand this? If... He sees a woman. He doesn't listen — she punishes. But at the same time — he must be the main one for other women. This is a very subtle and complex topic for perception. Because... Attention! In our brain, it is arranged so that if someone is the main one, then it is the dominant male. Always — male — regardless of gender. If you have a female boss at work, then she is a specific male leader for the brain, even if she wears short skirts, rhinestones and ruffles. That's where the catch is. The man who is yelled at sees a woman, but his brain perceives the scream as aggression of the dominant male. And the man... If he is a man... Must answer — to engage in a fight, i.e. to hit. There is, of course, another way — to run away from the stronger one. That's how it has been since ancient times in the struggle for survival. Aggression — instant production of hormones — familiar to everyone reaction — hit or run. That's how it is written in all packs. Males fight with their own kind for territory, females and superiority in the pack by means of physical strength, intelligence, experience and ingenuity. But!.. If the child allows himself to hit his mother, following the biological instincts of fighting for leadership, then he will get such a stream of condemnation, alienation and indignation, that again on the biological level he will remember this moment as a situation of loss and fear. Of course, nothing terrible will happen from one time, if the mother calmly explains to him that this can not be done and justifies her position. But if the mother behaves aggressively, and her behavior is repeated regularly, then the boy will start to fear her and subconsciously harbor resentment against her. And as a consequence — against all representatives of the opposite sex, whom you need "not to upset" extra, i.e. to avoid. Or... Since they are so strong, you need to hit first. And such boys, when they grow up, try to hurt first: insult, mock and throw. Well, in addition to the aggressive behavior of the mother, the boy often hears from her: "No one will ever love you like your mother". But there is also a continuation of this phrase: "You need to find a worthy wife!". Here... Already in the mind there is a clear dissonance: other women will never love him... Will not Love. And "so" or "not so" — it is impossible to compare. But you can definitely say that "love like your mother" — it is also punishment for behavior and actions. Therefore, boys learn to be "obedient" when it is profitable for them — caring, accommodating, cute. Harsh forms of breakups When a boy with such upbringing becomes a man, the laid down model of "being temporarily good" is especially brightly manifested in the hormonal period of meetings with the opposite sex. He courts beautifully. He says the right words. And then sex happens, and the person is replaced. The charm quickly evaporates. Indifference, aggression, rudeness come in its place. His girlfriend is outraged and humiliated. And if she did not become a victim of the circumstances of "accidental child", then for some time she tries to endure, and then leaves. Sometimes — sends her ex-lover in quite harsh forms. And lists all the sins and "inconsistencies" of the man. Plus adds speech with physiological details. For example, that sex with him was "just a flop". The offended man accumulates negative experience of breakups and grows hatred for the opposite sex. Hatred breeds fear of relationships. And he himself "secretly" provokes women to break up with him. And each of his next divorce confirms the imposed stereotype: "No one will love you like your mother!". Right! No woman should love you like your mother. Only your mother should love you like your mother. Only your wife should love you like your wife. And the concept of love always includes respect and reverence for all people without exception. Attention! Humiliated people are quite vindictive. This is their typical reaction to pain. And now not only during breakups, but also in ordinary relationships, many girls and boys are not shy in expressions. They don't care that their words hurt. They are cool. They want to defeat the enemy. And they win. Those who are more impudent and meaner. But — don't worry about the "degradation" of humanity. Evolution knows what to do with such mutant genes. It destroys them. But this becomes obvious only over a long period of time. Respect as the basis of love Many smart and strong women "know exactly" what men should be like, what they should do for them, and how to love them, and they tell them this at every convenient opportunity. They just forget what they should be like. They — women — should be women. I understand that this sounds silly, but in real life it is very difficult to fulfill this simple biological requirement. Ladies are ready to be accountants, lawyers, teachers, doctors... Anyone. In general, they most often associate themselves with their profession. But all achievements in work are not interesting to God, if they do not fulfill the installation imposed on them by the fact of birth. The mission of a woman is to be relaxed, light, cheerful. In fact — a woman should be a factory for producing happiness. Then she naturally can choose her fate. Then she naturally can not adjust to the partner. Then she naturally can live and enjoy herself, and the man, and the children, and the whole world as cherries on the cake of her personal happiness. Then she naturally makes her man happy. Then she naturally gives her children a blessing for a happy life. Then she naturally satisfies the man's need to be the main one. The main one is only the man who is needed by his woman. The needed man is a happy man. And they together — Family. And they are Happy. But for now... In most cases... All the beautiful words about love that people say are not backed up by personal examples of respect for others.