If a partner or child is blackmailing suicide

It has now become fashionable to use the desire to commit suicide to blackmail loved ones. This is especially evident in the younger part of the population. Almost like this: "I want to die." This method of discontent is used to obtain benefits, which include: I don't want to study, I want to sit on social networks, I'm ugly/ugly, no one will love me,"If you don't do this for me, then I'll kill myself," etc.

This behavior is also used by adults when they are stuck in childhood. I am the main one, give me a hand. You can fall in love with a neurotic or narcissist, because at the initial stage of dating, meetings with them are very unusual.There are many good articles by psychologists and psychoanalysts on this topic on the Internet. It is worth exploring this topic if you are in search of a partner or have already fallen into a mind-destroying relationship. There are a lot of disturbing personalities now. And it does not depend on age, nor on social status. It is important to recognize them quickly, otherwise you will be stuck for a long time.

When you understand who you have contacted, it is easier to get out of a traumatic relationship. Exit is required. It doesn't make sense to believe that he/she can be changed. Let the brain take out the one who enjoys the condition of the victim and who likes everything "50 shades of gray". Every emotional sadist has his own emotional masochist waiting for him. And you send such partners to hell.

All issues can be solved if they are solved correctly

If your child's or partner's condition is associated with long-term depression, severe depression, mental disorders (for example, bipolar disorder), then he needs specialist supervision and medication to restore connections between neurons. To suffer depression, as well as to suffer a headache, does not make sense. Depression is a disorder of connections between neurons. Many types of depression can be treated with medication. Don't self-medicate. Go to a specialist. If a drug is prescribed and, in the opinion of the sufferer, it does not help, you need to go to the doctor again. He will prescribe another drug. If it doesn't help again, go to another specialist from the field of psychiatry.

If a person has deep depression or his brain is prone to a depressive state (about 5 percent of such people), then I repeat, antidepressants and constant psychotherapy are necessary. The most important thing is to assess a person's condition impartially. Perhaps his body is genetically arranged in such a way that his nervous system needs systematic help. The main thing is to understand and act. And solve problems with the transmission of impulses between neurons of the brain. Thus, his mental state will be built up.

You should not engage in self-diagnosis and take medications based on the opinion of the Internet or on the advice of friends, because it helped someone. Without working with a clinical specialist, you will only worsen the condition of a loved one. All issues can be solved if they are solved competently.

Read the material Brain and depression before deciding on help. And act.

The causes of illusory suffering

All blackmailers want to attract attention and get emotions as a fuel for their social significance. And they always have a lot of time for illusory suffering. Yes, they really inflame themselves with their thoughts. Yes, they really force themselves to sincerely experience their own tragedy, which separates them from the world. Yes, they are dependent on their condition. But of course there is no real suffering. I attribute only the deaths of loved ones to real suffering.And in other cases, people just feel insecure and are afraid not to conform to the imposed images of beauty, wealth and success.

Usually, most of the suffering comes down to money. Corny, but a fact. If you offer the blackmailer a large sum of money, then his mental tossing will end. They will run out immediately, because money is a security system for anxious people.

After all, what do mythical suicides require? Banal: "I want it to be the way I want it to be, and fast. But for this, I do not intend to do anything myself. Give it to me! Otherwise, I will punish you with my death. The blackmailer wants to impose on you a sense of guilt that you are not doing something for him as he would like.

Very often, concerned loving people after each scandal are the first to come to terms with the rowdy and award the victim. This is well fixed in the blackmailer's brain, and he is increasingly beginning to use a similar scheme of showdowns with reality. Don't make his condition worse by saving him. Don't dare to descend to the victim's condition, otherwise he will emotionally suck you out, smear you and bring you to the grave. And he will find another victim himself and together they will go to your cemetery, suffer and plant flowers. Do you need this? No. Therefore, do not give your fate to a blackmailer, even your most beloved one.

What can be done?

I love effective methods, which are tough for many people's minds. Therefore, my option of interacting with a blackmailer may seem extraordinary. It doesn't matter what you think. The main thing is that it works. So, how can you manipulate a blackmailer if you have a healthy mind? It is necessary...

Explain to the blackmailer that his death will cost you such and such a sum of money.

Explain peacefully. To say that, of course, you will suffer, but you will survive this situation in any case. And you won't kill yourself. And you will live on. And he's not. Logic... Calm logic.

If your loved one has already blackmailed you with his death several times, back up your logic with a wad of money that you collected for the death of the blackmailer.

Put this stack of bills on the table, and put a list of expenses next to it. So... The grave will be in such a cemetery and will cost such a sum. May I ask if the blackmailer wants to be buried in a coffin or cremated? Which monument does he prefer? What kind of flowers would he like for a funeral? And so on. according to the list of expenses. It perfectly switches the brain of a person who wants to die.

The blackmailer, of course, is furious and yells or cries and sighs. You are listening carefully. When a tirade about the fact that you don't love him, don't understand, don't appreciate and the whole world is unfair, runs out, you continue.

You are informing me that the money you raised for the funeral can be spent on him.

But you don't give him a gift, but turn on the logic again: "So, if you perform such and such duties, then you will receive this amount then;. This amount can be increased by you if the blackmailer fulfills the terms of the deal well. Let's say he studies well, gets a job, does not take out your brain with his desire to commit suicide, etc. Then after some time you buy him a phone, a car, etc. The main thing is that the blackmailer participates in the accumulation process. You should deprive him of time for illusory suffering and switch him to getting a tangible result. It is exactly the kind of object that you can touch and enjoy in the process of using.

You are giving him a guideline in the future that is important to him personally.

To do this, you discuss with him what he wants. You need to switch your brain and raise your imaginary self-esteem. Of course, this word is quite abstract. But people want to say goodbye to life and play similar games in their minds when their sense of self-worth is unsatisfied... And their self-esteem is oh so hypertrophied!

For example, boys/men want to have something of status to please girls. Girls/women want to be more beautiful in order to sell well in the market of "happy female destiny".

So now you and the blackmailer have money for either a funeral or a car. In the role of the machine, as you understand, what your ward needs personally should act.

When the ward does not fulfill the terms of the transaction, he burns a bill of the deposited money in front of your eyes.

All points of the transaction must be written on paper and signed by the participants.

A few more obvious options

• Take the blackmailer to a good psychotherapist, as I wrote earlier. If the situation has not changed within three months, then the psychotherapist/psychologist needs to be replaced.
• Take the blackmailer to the cancer center, where they really die.

And give him the opportunity to talk to someone and help someone. And this should not be a one-time promotion. Your ward needs to learn how to take care of someone and feel that at any moment he can lose someone in whom he has invested his efforts and time.

If you are an oligarch and have already given your child the entire list of material benefits, then I sympathize with your thoughtlessness. We're sending him to work. We limit the flow of money. We give him the opportunity to develop and achieve. But this is a topic for a separate conversation.