Give me admiration!

There is a wonderful expression: "She made it up herself — she upset herself". And it always works for a hundred percent, regardless of gender. Of course, such behavior is attributed to women, but men are now not far behind the anxious ladies in terms of anxiety. Which is logical...

Behavior is determined not only by the differences in the work of the brain of men and women, not only by social affiliation, education and cultural traditions, but also largely depends on how a person forms a picture of the world.

Obviously, many people create models of reality from constant fear and inflated vanity. And these "bright qualities" do not have a sexual instinct, but multiply in a huge progression. And, of course, this is primarily facilitated by the dogmas of people who have not learned to live happily for thousands of years, but have learned to create rules "how to live".

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Freedom of choice and responsibility for fate

Today we will talk about such an ambiguous concept as freedom of choice. I have repeatedly used this phrase in articles, saying that everyone on this planet has it.

Ha, only in fact — this freedom of choice has everyone and everyone. What externally looks like a tempting bonus to fate or a spun brand, in fact — a colossal responsibility.

Freedom of choice — this is not a pleasant state, when I am so beautiful all make a decision, what to prefer: tea or coffee, Bali or Maldives, this person for sex/marriage or another and so on down the list.

This is not freedom!

For most people on the planet, this is just a list of desires, based on instincts, passions, hormones and, of course, on cultural traditions, accepted in different societies.

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Love, risk and adventure: the simplest way to fulfill your wishes

People are passionately talking about faith, love, freedom, responsibility, awareness, but as soon as external circumstances disrupt the usual course of things, many immediately experience emotions of anger and resentment...

Although everyone has heard a thousand times about the need to accept any situation and, of course, to be grateful for everything that happens.

I wrote in the article "Freedom of choice": "wish that something happens to you that you could not even dream of". Because it is when everything goes not according to plan, there is a reason to experience gratitude. Although at first glance it does not correspond to human logic.

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Cosmic logic: multiply money by parting with money

For many, fear is a constant emotion that merges so much with consciousness that you don't notice it. I'm not talking about the fact that a person is directly shaken by fears for any reason. No, of course. Fear is very insidious and often looks like logic for the mind: "I will not risk/start my own business/fall in love now, because the political/economic/psychological situation is not suitable."

Then fear suggests a dozen reasons why a person can not do it today, tomorrow, always. And the person begins to actively "look for a way".

Searching for a way usually occupied by people who do not know where to go and what to do. They are not to blame for their condition — it is a neurosis and it is successfully treated. It's a pity only that often a person does not realize that he has such a state and writes off his neurosis to negative external circumstances. It is such neurotic personalities that are easiest to lure to trainings of "successful success".

After all, when a person is eaten from the inside by anxiety, then he is constantly looking for a Savior. Now especially welcome, that the Savior had also a considerable money capital, although the previous history of mankind successfully proved the opposite...

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Harmful goals

Well... Now the consciousness of many will cry out and want to discard the received information forever, because it largely does not correspond to the generally accepted standards of "successful success". We will talk about mythical goals, which, as soon as people set them for themselves, they immediately become limitations.

Any "right goal" — to earn, conquer, win and even achieve enlightenment — is not organic by nature.

Such priorities have a shaky foundation: to become better than others, i.e. to satisfy vanity. And this is necessary for a person to prove to himself and everyone around that he is not the last poop of the Universe.

Such a walking neurosis constantly compares his "victories" with the successes of other people. And against the background of many — he is always losing. Not the richest... Not the most successful... Not the strongest... Not the most beautiful...

It is on the fear of not matching the illusions of "self-love" that many trainings of "personal growth" are built: those who go to them to increase self-esteem, pump up energy, become a millionaire, do not remove the causes associated with dissatisfaction with themselves and the world, but — on the contrary — increase them many times.

And the vulnerable psyche of the neurotic fails soon after the person seemed to have "pumped up" and "charged". Time passes after the seminar, emotions subside and the person faces reality, in which he is again not appreciated at work, the opposite sex does not pay attention and — worst of all — personal messages to the Universe do not work.

The person held on to the "positive" for a long time: thought about the good, made wish cards, used mental rituals like "I am a leader", let go of situations... And the Universe — this is a cold community of quarks — is silent and does not give. That's what it is — soulless and bitchy...

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Stories from practice: what do you want, beautiful?

The girl was "terribly" lucky. She met a successful man: a car, a house, an apartment, and... a wife. It took her a long time to get it. She was both modest and persistent. She withstood all the hardships of fighting with other contenders for a comfortable place next to him. She became a lover in a rented apartment. But all her further tricks about being better than her lawful spouse ran into an impenetrable wall. He spoke firmly: "If you want to live in luxury and receive gifts, not a word about your wife."

After six months, this state of affairs began to strain her. On the advice of a friend, she went to an appointment with a sorcerer to enchant her lover. The sorcerer agreed to work with her, but said that she would pay hard for her desires. The girl didn't really believe in "all these things", so she laughed at him:

— You're giving me crap here, Grandpa. Do you want to fill the price? I came because all my friends go to places like you and feel great. So come on, do what you have to do, take the money and work. If everything works out, I'll bring it back.

— So what do you want, beautiful? Repeat.

— Here's a photo. I want him to get divorced and then marry me.

— All? It's good that you want so little, you don't have enough strength to withstand more ...

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Brain versus Personality: What kind of trash is sitting inside?

Dangerous delusions of thinking enslave minds. Many people who play with external awareness seriously want to dominate the brain — a powerful server on which a small, unpretentious program with the beautiful name "personality" is installed. And the brain manipulates people with ease. He has all the resources to do what he sees fit, without taking into account the opinion of consciousness. And at the same time send a signal to your carrier that "everything is going exactly as prescribed," that you are a human being "doing what is needed" and you are "always right." And a person, thanks to this brain function, is "consciously sure" that this is exactly what he thinks ...

Evolution has made it so that a person is obviously deprived of the opportunity to fully own his body. For example, to control the vegetative system — the internal organs. The body and brain are designed very intelligently: we could not live a minute if we had to give commands to the lungs to breathe, the heart to beat, the liver to maintain a constant blood composition, the brain to communicate between neurons, etc.

Our consciousness is not able to capture such a huge flow of information. It is not able to work in such a high-speed mode. The brain performs more conscious actions in a second than a person does in a lifetime. But...

A person was left with the ability to worry during decision-making so that it would seem important to him. It's a whole event.: "I made a choice!" Yes, evolution has acted very carefully with our self-esteem: consciousness seems to think that it "decides something" so that a person does not interfere with his "emotional outbursts" and "freedom of choice" for the brain to work.

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How does female upbringing paralyze men?

Women were told from childhood that men should be leaders, providers and protectors, and they should be sensual, gentle and tender beauties. Being beautiful is necessary to get a happy fate, which in the female understanding subconsciously implies a successful husband. Men were told that they should be courageous and strong leaders, so that beautiful princesses would love them. Great. Until everything goes well.

And who said these wonderful words? Right — in most cases — mothers and numerous female surroundings.

Men in our society are raised by women. And how do women usually raise? In a way that is familiar to many: they say one thing, do another. These women repeat the stereotypes of behavior inherent in their parents.

Sad and offended people are often hostages of the models of unhappiness that have developed in their families.

Therefore, we can observe a clear contradiction in upbringing, which people do not even notice. Mothers tell their sons that they need to be real men and then express their disagreement with their husbands, hitting their partner's self-esteem precisely and painfully. Many women transfer this attitude to their husbands and to their sons. And they start to tell them "their place". And they yell at "their" men. And so actively that the sons have a clear dissonance. And it manifests itself in such a way that the boys decide that they will never get married. But then hormones are activated, and the sexual instinct wins.

This is a very broad topic, which includes concepts of sex, money, and success. We will reveal it gradually. And today we will talk about how short-sighted female upbringing paralyzes men and makes them afraid of women and relationships in the future.

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Hero label and the paradox of suffering

In the material Illusions of love: what do you need from another person? I wrote that at the end of any stressful stage, hormonal spring begins for many, regardless of the date on the calendar. After this article, a large number of messages came, which enthusiastically confirm this. And they demand to continue the topic: an excursion into the depths of "perception" caused real internal resistance.

This was reflected in the fact that people actively wrote me personal messages, not wanting to speak out in the comments. Yes, to realize that you are not looking for love, but chasing admiration and approval, it hurts both for self-esteem and for reassessing the world.

The material ended with an innocent intrigue: "Only you can change, design and build your life in such a way that your fate is admired by you in the first place. And other people will already catch up in the process. Well, now, how difficult is it?" I got a lot of answers. And most of them assessed changing their own lives as a radically difficult task.

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Profit technique in love and business

I love working with rich people because they are the ones who ask, "How do I become happy?" And I always hear from them another great question: "What can I do for this?". I have already described the difference in the logic of the rich and the poor in one of the materials. Let me remind you. A poor person usually says to me, "What can you do for me?" Rich: "What can I do for myself?" As you can see, the brains of successful people work normally: my life is my responsibility.

Therefore, if the main question for you is: "What can I do for myself?", and the question for a friend is: "What can I do for you?", then you are already a rich man, and the amount of money in the bank account is just a sequence of actions and practice.

Really, many people can become richer if they remove the limitations in their minds. It's difficult, but not in the way that seminars like "Your path to financial independence" usually describe. It is enough to understand the universal technology of retribution. You can even call it a crazy practice, but it works like all cosmic humor: to get, you have to give. And this simplicity is usually disliked by users who have doubts: "When will they give me?", "How long do I need to do this?".

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