Give me admiration!

There is a wonderful expression: "She made it up herself — she upset herself". And it always works for a hundred percent, regardless of gender. Of course, such behavior is attributed to women, but men are now not far behind the anxious ladies in terms of anxiety. Which is logical...

Behavior is determined not only by the differences in the work of the brain of men and women, not only by social affiliation, education and cultural traditions, but also largely depends on how a person forms a picture of the world.

Obviously, many people create models of reality from constant fear and inflated vanity. And these "bright qualities" do not have a sexual instinct, but multiply in a huge progression. And, of course, this is primarily facilitated by the dogmas of people who have not learned to live happily for thousands of years, but have learned to create rules "how to live".

Fairy tales about "correctness"

We have all been imposed too many postulates, what and how we should do. And many people aggravate their neuroses from the large amount of meaningless information. The cells of the reticular formation from the brain stem reliably supply the person with mental energy. This energy breaks through the centers of biological needs, which make you constantly want. And then the advertising of "successful success" actively penetrates into the consciousness. And people can not cope with the chaos of desires, cling to all the nonsense that the society of modern neurotics offers them, and plunge into the abyss of emotional suffering, not being able to cope with their own brain and imposed settings.

Fairy tales about how to live "correctly" were invented by anxious personalities, based on their fears.

More money, more cars, more houses, more gadgets, so you don't have to leave the house at all. They will deliver food and provide relationships for you. It's all about one thing — more walls around a person, to separate from another person. To make you think less and want more. Including happiness.

Cheap happiness, which people feel through virtual progress, is nothing more than a trick, based on biological instincts.

Therefore... When people who are fed with dopamine from the Internet meet in reality, they can only bring each other pain, because they simply do not know how to communicate.

The need for delight

Now... It would seem... Most of humanity does not have to run for food and get fire, but only this majority has settled in computer games and social networks. It collects likes furiously.

Yes, the fast release of dopamine from satisfying the need for delight surpasses all indicators. People even refuse sex, because in this process you need to strain somehow, but why?.. You can post an erotic-inviting photo, and then count how many people responded, get a cheap ecstasy and rejoice. But then people come to the mirror and see that the image does not match the retouched picture, and are so upset that they go for plastic surgery. And then they suffer so much from the lack of admiration in real life that they kill themselves.

The number of suicides in countries with developed economies is steadily increasing. Think about it, while you are reading these lines, brewing tea, watching the sunset...

Every 40 seconds one person takes his own life, because... What? Saber-toothed tiger scared to death? The devil challenged to a duel? No.

But right now... Another person is so upset that "something went wrong" and went to kill himself.

In countries with developed economies, search operations are underway to find the unhappy, send them to psychotherapists and give antidepressants. Of course, these people need help. Of course, it is impossible to help all the unhappy, until the standards of external beauty in the consciousness of civilization are transformed into internal beauty. And the success of being rich will not be overthrown by the success of being happy.

But in countries with undeveloped economies, people value every piece of bread, every sip of water and every day lived. Because — it is important to survive.

In the "civilized world" biological needs are easily satisfied. And in the society of excessive consumption, it would seem, for most citizens a paradise for development is created, but people find it difficult, painful and bad to live in such a paradise. People fall into anxious disorders from the lack of real problems of survival. And more and more immersed in internal tension, they look for the "meaning of life" where there is none, and dream of the afterlife paradise, nirvana and samadhi, as states of complete ecstasy, in which you can do nothing. Absurd!

The real difference between people

Yes, someone eats delicacies, someone is content with water and bread. But — in any case — a person is not able to stuff himself with several kilograms of any exquisite food, otherwise he will either feel very bad, or deadly bad. Therefore, wealth and poverty in the global sense do not matter, when people occupy the same place in space. And it does not matter how many bedrooms in the house, if a person can still sleep only on one bed, and eat only a certain amount of food.

The real difference between people lies only in one thing — can a person control his own consciousness or not. Can not — neuroses, suffering, depression. Can — calmness, acceptance, gratitude.

Every adult knows what mental pain is. Everyone has heard "love yourself" thousands of times. And everyone knows that smart words do not work when a person has excessive internal tension. A person does not need to be calmed down by the fact that "everything will be fine". It will not — until the causes of neuroses are eliminated.

For money you can buy antidepressants, a new heart, plastic surgery, but you can not buy a new brain.

Therefore, working with neural networks to transform misery into happiness is the most important thing that a person should do for himself.